I wish I could convince others of the importance of being beautiful inside. My wife has a heart of gold but constantly worries about her physical appearance.
When I first meet people, outward appearance is naturally the first thing I notice. Unfortunately, however, the most beautiful woman can quickly appear quite ugly to me if she opens her mouth and reveals ugliness in her heart.
I don’t think I am alone in judging people more by their character than by their appearance. In fact, I would venture a guess that MOST people find that what is in the heart far outweighs physical appearance.
Thanks so much to this reader for opening up! They also articulated something that I've had trouble explaining well:
"Hearing newcomers share is the most powerful for me, because it puts me right back into that raw life-and-death mindset, which allows me to see how much I've actually changed over the years, which then allows me to see hope for them even though they might not be able to see it for themselves."
I always want to tell newcomers (and those returning from a relapse) why their shares mean so much to me, and it's not just (or even primarily) that it reminds me of how bad things are "out there." It really is about how they are closer to that experience, and how they can tap into those feelings in a way that gets harder and harder for me to. This reader puts it beautifully.
Always heartbreaking to read and painfully relatable but I believe talking about it like this helps alleviate it somewhat. ❤️
I wish I could convince others of the importance of being beautiful inside. My wife has a heart of gold but constantly worries about her physical appearance.
When I first meet people, outward appearance is naturally the first thing I notice. Unfortunately, however, the most beautiful woman can quickly appear quite ugly to me if she opens her mouth and reveals ugliness in her heart.
I don’t think I am alone in judging people more by their character than by their appearance. In fact, I would venture a guess that MOST people find that what is in the heart far outweighs physical appearance.
Thanks so much to this reader for opening up! They also articulated something that I've had trouble explaining well:
"Hearing newcomers share is the most powerful for me, because it puts me right back into that raw life-and-death mindset, which allows me to see how much I've actually changed over the years, which then allows me to see hope for them even though they might not be able to see it for themselves."
I always want to tell newcomers (and those returning from a relapse) why their shares mean so much to me, and it's not just (or even primarily) that it reminds me of how bad things are "out there." It really is about how they are closer to that experience, and how they can tap into those feelings in a way that gets harder and harder for me to. This reader puts it beautifully.